parenting Category

Thursday, January 13th, 2011

how to manage family finances

I am a stay-at-home mom. That means, there’s only one bread-winner in the house – my husband. Although what he’s earning is enough for the family, we need to carefully manage our finances. You know, finances could make or break relationships. Probably it’s not because of lack of finances, but a misuse or mismanage of it. And you know, I have noticed that conflict of finances are often the primary cause of broken relationships. Here are a couple of tips on how to manage family finances that I have learned over 5 years of being married:

  • there must be open communication regarding family needs, priorities, and even extras. if one spouse is left in the dark, it could endanger relationships.
  • from this comes budgeting. we have to do a monthly budget to see whether what we buy that month is included in the budget. this way, if ever we have extra, we would know and could spend on some things a little bit more. Budgeting is quite a challenge. Sometimes, when you have a lot of needs, you don’t know which comes first.
  • don’t use credit card for unnecessary buys.
  • save, save and save. this is a good alternative to using credit cards. If you know that you’re going to need some cash ahead of time, save some. Could save a lot of trouble looking for some place else to find money.
  • don’t forget to tithe. our income is a gift from God, a blessing from Him. In tithing, you put money in it’s proper prespective. I realize that when you establish giving as a priority, even when you’re in debt, you tend to keep your other priorities in better order.
Wednesday, January 12th, 2011

kids’ interaction

Children who spend time around people of all ages are better prepared socially. Provide opportunities for them to interact with a variety of different age levels.

Let your children do things on their own. You can supervise if necessary, but letting them dress themselves or shop for their own clothes fosters independence and responsibility

Saturday, January 8th, 2011

make your home cozy

cozy living room

my husband and i were talking just now about the house we’re living in now. it doesn’t look as cozy as our apartment. the wall painting is white and it rather looks plain against our white couch. in our apartment, my husband painted different colors on the wall. he combined 9 different colors, which made the house really looked cozy, especially that we used yellow light fixtures. here in our house now, although we use yellow lamps and lights, the house still looks plain. i mean, it looks cozy in a certain degree, just not as cozy as our apartment. we don’t want to invest and change the wall painting because we only have 1.5 more years to live here. we thought it’s not a good idea to do that. sometimes, home lighting does make a difference, even with white colored-walls, but it’s best to combine the color of the lights and the color of the wall.  it doesn’t matter if we have white light for our ceiling light fixtures because sometimes, i just need a bright light whenever i need to do something. i am not an interior designer, but somehow, i know what effect the colors of the house do. right color will definitely set a right mood. anyway, if you’re looking for a good lighting fixtures, just visit www.farreys.com. you will find an array of lightings which suit your needs.

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

Family Recreation

When we become parents, we constantly think of ways to entertain our kids. One of the things we do is plan for family recreation. In Malaysia, I find we can do so many things. We can go fishing, camping, trekking, going to the malls, playing at games arcades in the malls, etc. Possibilities are limitless.

One thing I wanna do is going camping with my family when the kids are grown a little more. As far as I know, we don’t have recreation vehicles in Malaysia. Otherwise, I think, there will be a lot of families with rv’s that have rv extended warranty.

There are actually websites that offer warranties for recreational vehicles, motorhome, etc. All we need to do is surf the net.

Anyways, with or without rv, I’m sure we’re going camping with my family next time.

Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

Make Learning Fun

One of the most effective ways for kids to learn is through play. That’s why there are lots of playgroups for kids. A lot of parents send their kids to playgroup for social interaction and for learning. Before I sent my kids to a kindy, I sent them to playgrous. The first playgroup my son went to  was Gymboree in Bangsar. Although it was very inconvenient for us because we had to drive for one hour to go there and the playgroup only lasts 45 minutes, we still pursued it because we noticed that even though he wasn’t joining much, he showed a lot of improvements.

But later we discovered there is Tumble Tots in Subang Parade. So instead of driving all the way to Bangsar Village, we started sending our kids to Tumble Tots. Tumble Tots is much much cheaper.

Now that my kids are in kindy, we stopped sending them to playgroups.

In our new house now, we set up our study room in such a way that kids would enjoy the room. We actually bought some kiddy chairs from Ikea. They’re not like one of those classroom chairs but it will do.

Now the kids’ hanging out place is our study room. My boy does his homeworks there and my girl would sit by him and act like she’s doing her homework too. It’s fun seeing them doing like that.

As parents, we work really hard to give our kids a good environment for learning. Not only the kids are encouraged to study, they will have fun as well.

Tuesday, June 30th, 2009

car seats

good quality car seats are important for traveling with kids. when my first child was born, we bought a brand new carseat for him, sponsored by a friend from the US. i was told to never buy a second hand car seats as we don’t know how the first owner handled it or whether it had been in a car accident already. but of course, when baby girl, my second child, came out and we desperately need to have a car seat for her, i looked up from e-bay for some secondhand ones. i found one which was fairly new, the baby barely used the car seat. and it was for a good price. i forgot the brand but i think it’s mothercare. you know if it’s mothercare, you would know it’s of good quality. in UK, you are not allowed to travel with kids without car seats. here in Malaysia, they haven’t imposed it yet. but when my family and i have a long-distance travel, we make sure to use car seats for both my kids. better be safe than be sorry.

Friday, June 19th, 2009

schedules and routine

children need schedules and routine. they need things to be in order and to know ahead of time what is going to happen. it helps them feel loved and secure in a crazy world.

my boy, at 3.5 years did very well in being a ring bearer to his uncle’s wedding. why? we informed him earlier on that he’s going to carry the ring for his uncle on his wedding and we show our wedding video to him a few times and pointed out what he’s gonna do. we did this way ahead of time. we also told him that if he did very well, we will buy for him his favorite toy. he so wanted a water gun but we refused to buy it for him before. we didn’t say why not, so he persisted on getting his water gun. and so, before his uncle’s wedding, we promised to buy him his water gun once he walks down the aisle as a ring bearer. it worked really well.

by: janet

Wednesday, June 17th, 2009

save a few trips

if your main baby-changing are is upstairs, keep a small basket stocked with extra diapers, lotion, and baby basics downstairs. this will save a few trips up and down the stairs.

that’s what i do with my kids now. i have a bathroom downstairs too. so i keep some stocks downstairs. i find it not only save time, it saves energy as well.

by: janet

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