I was just reading an article about a marriage between a Christian couple that was almost over. There was a time when the marriage started to shake and things got worse as they went on. It was really bad even a Christian counselor had to advise them to go for divorce. But then as both of them realized that they needed to be more sensitive to each others needs and that both of them personally needed to grow in their walks with the Lord, they started working these two things out to make their marriage work.
Marriage is indeed a hard work. It’s not passive. It’s not like you get married with the person you love and you will happily live ever after. It is not a fairy tale. Rather, it is hard work. You have to work out that fire within the marriage. I think for us wives, we have an integral part in keeping our marriage.
We have to work on being sensitive to our husband’s needs. Also, a lot of people think that wives don’t need to work on making themselves beautiful because no matter how the wives would look like, the husbands would still love them. I kind of disagree on this part. I have to make myself beautiful for my husband, both inwardly and outwardly. Even if it requires me to use diet supplements just to keep my weight normal, I would do.
I’m not saying that if we don’t look beautiful outwardly our husbands will stop loving us. I’m just saying that to keep a fire going, to keep our husband’s desire for us alive, we should work on it.
There are lots of ways to keep the fire going. It will probably take me months and more experiences to write about it. But for now, I can only write about keeping ourselves presentable.