children need schedules and routine. they need things to be in order and to know ahead of time what is going to happen. it helps them feel loved and secure in a crazy world.
my boy, at 3.5 years did very well in being a ring bearer to his uncle’s wedding. why? we informed him earlier on that he’s going to carry the ring for his uncle on his wedding and we show our wedding video to him a few times and pointed out what he’s gonna do. we did this way ahead of time. we also told him that if he did very well, we will buy for him his favorite toy. he so wanted a water gun but we refused to buy it for him before. we didn’t say why not, so he persisted on getting his water gun. and so, before his uncle’s wedding, we promised to buy him his water gun once he walks down the aisle as a ring bearer. it worked really well.
by: janet